Over-share
If you check in here regularly, you’ve probably noticed that a few posts have appeared, then disappeared, and appeared again before finally being vaporized. If you haven’t noticed, you haven’t missed much.
What it comes down to is that I’m having boundary issues, questions of just what is and isn’t ok to talk about publically. I’m hyper-sensitive to anything that could be interpreted as whining right now, so if I look at something later and think it might swing that direction, poof, it’s gone. It would be better if I could figure that out before posting at all, of course.
I’m leery of what my kids call “overshare,” or To Much Information. I try not to let this place be a confessional on anything other than mental health issues - I’m comfortable with that because I’ve been told specifically that it’s helpful to other people. For that reason, I’m ok with it. The other stuff … well, that’s different. Maybe just because I feel the need to write something, it doesn’t mean anyone actually needs to read it. Yet I feel the urge to reach out on other levels. Hence my conflict.
The stuff I pulled was nothing earth-shattering; my fears of the dentist and my difficulty in dealing with competition. But there was enough personal history in them to make me cautious. They ran up against my boundary rules that say it’s ok to be educational, but not ok to ask for emotional support. That’s the same reason I turned off comments to my post about Shadow’s death. I’m a lot more comfortable with intellectual discussion than I am with emotional intimacy. Yet I still feel the need to communicate on emotional issues. A quandary. Some of that is the awareness that my kids and others who know me well read this; nothing is ever truly anonymous, yet I long for that illusion.
In the meantime, things may come and go as I wrestle with this. Sorry for the inconvenience.
