According to a Gallup Poll conducted last month, 47% of people, and 66% of those aged 18-34, would like to know the sex of their hypothetical baby before it’s born. On the other side, 51% over all, and 56% of those with a religious affiliation, preferred not to be told before the birth. Of particular interest to me is the strong preference for advance warning in the younger generation, indicating a cultural shift in that direction away from the “surprise me” taste of those who had their children in the 80s like I did. Of particular note is that the comment thread on Digg, where I found this story, back that up. Commenters almost unanimously pointed out the advantages in picking out clothes and in decorating.
I guess color coordinating decor just was never that important to me.
I had 2 (out of 3) high risk pregnancies, so the sex of my children was at the bottom of the list of my concerns. I was more worried about survival, both that of my babies and of myself. I think that’s the way most mothers feel, whether they want to know the sex or not. In practical terms, no one ever asked me if I wanted to know the sex until just before my son was born, at which time I said no thank you. Not because I was hooked on the air of mystery, or because I was anticipating his birth as some kind of surprise party, but because I didn’t want to be influenced by it. As I explained to my 8 and 3-year-old daughters, having a baby is like a gumball machine. You put a quarter in because you like gum, not because you want purple, and then you’re happy with what comes out. (Yes, this led to speculation on what color the baby was going to be.)
I had plenty of reasons for not wanting to know. Most important to me was not placing expectations on my child. I never did a blue nursery, or a pink nursery, and all my kids wore red, navy and green crawlers. They had primary color or white blankets until they were old enough to express a preference. The last thing I wanted before they were born–or after, for that matter–was to stereotype them by gender. Knowing their sex, without knowing anything else about them, for months prior to their births would have interfered with that. So I emphatically didn’t want to be told.
I can understand that others might not agree with me - obviously, half of those polled don’t. Did/do you want to know? Why, or why not?